This is a very easy spell. Everyone can use it. And I mean EVERYONE can use it. I am shocked at how few people know the magic words. The first part of the spell seems to have been utterly forgotten. Like any spell, if you don’t say the first part correctly, the last part doesn’t work. I face this daily at my retail job. I appreciate the intention behind a robust “thank you”, but when it follows an insolent demand it feels ingratiating. It doesn’t feel right to either of us. I long to chide the good people that come into the shop and remind them of the goodness of the magic words because this spell has the ability to transform our very lives! It has transformed mine.
Years ago, I would go into any shop, coffee house, or restaurant and say “I want this…” I wanted to minimize my annoyingness and maximize my likeability. I worked hard to state my needs clearly, to be straightforward, and to give a very hearty thank you. I come from a long line of over-thankers. “Thank ’til it hurts,” that’s the Adams’ family motto. So, I would thank at least twice. Or, in some cases, keep a steady line of thanking going. I would thank the waitress for bringing the napkin, the glass of water, the extra plate, the meal, the check, etc… until I thanked myself out the door. Still something wasn’t right! What was it? My intention was good, my manner was direct and courteous. I WAS thanking! I WAS tipping! What wasn’t working? It took me a while to realize that I wasn’t saying, “Please.” May I please? Please may I? Would you please?
If ever there was a magic word, this is it. Please. Start using the word Please and watch the world soften around you. Please shows humility. You stop being the demanding monster who needs, wants, and gimmes. Please asks nicely. Please restores the balance of power. Please makes Thank you feel sincere, rather than empty and overcompensating for the Please that was never offered. Please bring back the magic words and say the spell rightly. Please try it for 24 hours and your life will be utterly transformed.